Many of you know that nearly two weeks ago now I sent out a request over social media for prayers and happy thoughts to be sent out way, not sharing exactly what had happened with us. The words to write this post have been forming ever since as we've been updating family and friends, though I was hoping I'd never have to write it here. Now that it's clear I can't move forward without publishing, my heart is pounding and I can't quite form proper sentences in my head, but I'll do my best.
Last weekend on Friday, Martin my sweetheart was diagnosed with aggressive Stage 4 Melanoma Cancer.

On Friday the 17th he was pre-diagnosed with Metastatic Melanoma, from the results of a few different tests and scans that'd been done on a large lump under his arm in his lymph-nodes, which had appeared and grown very quickly. We had about a week to wait for definitive results, but the doctors that'd reviewed his scans felt quiet certain.
Knowing of the friendship and love I have in so many of you, I decided to reach out and ask for your support while we waited for the results to come in, not sharing the suspicions in hopes that they would be prove to be false. SO many of you replied with such sweet comments and messages of strength and encouragement, sharing my request with your friends and families, and the emails started coming in. I was instantly overwhelmed by all the compassionate thoughts of so many who I've never even met, and right away I knew that my tribe was behind us and that we didn't have to move forward alone.
After a long weekend of research and phone calls, messages with family, etc, we decided to try to get an appointment with some very acclaimed doctors in the Melanoma field to find out more. On Martin and Sophie's birthday we packed all four kiddies and my 8 month bump in the car and drove out of state with not much more than the clothes on our backs for Martin's first appointment, not knowing how long we'd be gone or what we were going to find out exactly.
Day after day, we kept finding out they were going to do more tests, another scan, more blood-work, another biopsy, more needles. We weren't very hopeful for good news since none of the Doctors were very optimistic. They found multiple spots on his liver, his brain and other organs, though without any melanoma spots on his skin he is part of a low statistic that didn't get it from UV rays. We ended up staying there for five exhausting days, leaving with his final diagnoses, a binder with his treatment options, and the opinion of many that he'd be lucky to even have five years left.
Having been home for a few days now, we've been overwhelmed again by all the sweet friends and family reaching out to help in so many ways, and I can't thank everyone enough! We have another week or so to make up our minds about what direction of treatment we want to go in since Marty's case is quite time sensitive, and we're up to our ears in decisions.
More than anything right now I just want our life to feel normal again, and have been fighting for any sliver of our daily routine before this all happened. I've found myself craving to get my fingers on the keyboard again too, but I knew as I said before that until I shared the news that I couldn't move forward with any other type of posts. Once I find the courage to post this it'll feel the best to move on with my regular blogging as much as possible, though I fully plan on sharing many more 'journaling' type posts with updates and such as things happen.

More than anything right now I just want our life to feel normal again, and have been fighting for any sliver of our daily routine before this all happened. I've found myself craving to get my fingers on the keyboard again too, but I knew as I said before that until I shared the news that I couldn't move forward with any other type of posts. Once I find the courage to post this it'll feel the best to move on with my regular blogging as much as possible, though I fully plan on sharing many more 'journaling' type posts with updates and such as things happen.
If you have any questions or comments you can feel free to share them, and since we're having a big week with big decisions, I have to ask again that if you and your people can spare any prayers for us, they would be most welcome. I hope that sharing the details of our journey will not only help me but help others, just as the goal of this blog has always been.
Much love,
Much love,