Tuesday, September 27

A New Chapter: Here's to the Future

Today was the perfect day for the first fire of the season. I pulled on my boots and went out for a load of firewood, treading over orange and yellow leaves as I went, and catching a few in my hair as they blew across the pasture. Sitting here now, taking deep breaths and trying to build up the courage I need to share today's post, I can hear the cracking of the wood as it burns. The smell of it brings so many sweet and distant memories to my mind, but I'm ready for new memories now, new sweet moments, new smiles for myself and my little children. I'm ready for the next chapter, the next part in the story of the 25-year-old mom of five, who lost her sweet husband after a long hard battle with terminal cancer. The last 18 months have changed us profoundly, but after so many prayers on our behalf, and so much hope for us to find happiness and joy, I'm ready to move forward with more faith, to let go of fear, and I'm ready to share some news that I've been keeping to myself for the last little while. I'm ready to introduce you to Richard.
The cliff-notes version: We met over 10 years ago while we were both in high school. We started writing letters to eachother, and kept it up for several years. We became incredibly close and helped one another through some tough years. When I became engaged to Martin, Richard and I parted ways as friends. We didn't reconnect until very recently, and things started moving fast between us. We had grown so close all those years ago, and were very much able pick up where we'd left off.
Having Richard around felt so easy and natural, and there was a turning point early on when we both saw clearly where we were headed. We felt like our lives were pieces of the same puzzle, and saw so many signs from different places that we were moving in the right direction. After much prayer and peaceful confirmation, we made the choice to be married. We did so in a small private ceremony on top of a mountain, and it was simple and perfect. (wedding photos coming soon:))
There is so much hope in our lives now, so much love and peace. Seeing the kids dog-pile him on the floor while I cook dinner, or lining up for piggy-back rides has been so heart-warming. He holds them when they cry and reads to them when they're sick. There is so much more laughter from them, so much excitement for each day, and having a partner to share in everything I've carried on my back for so long is such a blessing. Martin and I talked many times about my future after he was gone, about our five little ones, and I can't help but feel like he has played a large part in how things have worked out. I know he is as grateful as I am for this wonderful man who has come to love and take care of his family.

I know to my core that everything happens for a reason and that Richard was sent to mend our hearts and heal our home when we needed him the most. His life experiences have prepared him in many ways for our families' unique situation, and he recognizes what he's taking on.  Incredibly, he understands how much we love and miss Martin, and his desire to help keep Martins' memory alive is obvious.  We all feel so incredibly blessed to have him.

I look forward to sharing more about my history with Richard and how our unique and beautiful story has unfolded. I also feel strong desires to open up more about parts of Martin's story between his diagnosis and passing.  There are many lessons that I've learned and would like to convey for those who may benefit, myself included. I feel that I want to express more of that part of my life here in the coming months, as well as sharing the beginning of this new chapter.

As I'm wrapping this up and the coals in the fire glow gently, I'm more grateful for your kindness and love than ever before, as it is still so needed. Though this is a wonderful time for us with many happy changes, our hearts are still tender and healing.  I have truly felt the effects of so many many prayers on our behalf, and the outreach of love through comments and emails, etc. I wish I could express how much they mean to me, and I hope you all realize how much they have helped carry me through the storm.

More coming soon, 

178 comments:

  1. God bless you and your family always Emily :)

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  2. Congratulations and blessings to you both! I lost my father when I was very young and I wish my mother had been with a blessed a strong partner to help her through. I'm so glad that God brought that to you. I know how hard this must be for you but I'm glad that blessings are coming your way. I never had a father figure look at me the way Richard looks at your kids after my Dad died. It seems they are very lucky to have him. Holding you all up in prayers and blessings as you move forward!

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  3. So happy for you Emily!! You and your sweet family deserve joy and happiness in your lives!! XOXO

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  4. Wow this is beautiful! Thank you for sharing how God has brought this new chapter of happiness to your life! Lovely.

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  5. I am seriously so happy and excited you too found each other. You were what was missing in each others lives, and be it fate or god or karma that brought you together it is what you both needed and didnt know. I wish you the best with many sticky fingers, muddy paws, happy hugs, poopy diapers and all that come with. Congratulations I love you all, including Epi.

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  6. You don't know me, Emily, but I've been praying since Martin had to go that you would find someone to be your husband. I'm so happy for you and hope and pray much joy for you, your family and your new husband. Congratulations, and a big hug.

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  7. Dear Lord, I am so happy for you! You deserve all the happiness and love that this universe has to offer, and I wish you all the best on your way into the future. Sending you big hugs from Vienna! <3

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  8. Ah! I am ecstatic for you. :) He glows and is perfect for you and the kiddos. Congratulations.

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  9. Congratulations! You have been truly blessed. To love and be loved by two amazing men is a true gift.

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  10. Wow, that is a lot that happened in a very short time. Martin must have been helping for sure. I hope everything continues to be a blessing.

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  11. Very happy for you and the children. Moving on and loving someone else, especially after a death does not mean you don't still love the one that left you, or that you don't cherish and honor his memory...it just means life here as you and the children knew it has changed and you must change with it. I pray for your union and for Richard to be the kind of man that loves you and the children unconditionally! So happy for you and relieved that you have a help mate! Blessings.

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  12. I'm honestly not going to lie, I'm incredibly shocked to hear that you not only have found a partner but have married! Just over three months ago you lost Martin and I find this so hard to believe but as I've read and watched your family and you grow, I know you have made the right decisions for you and I wish you all the happiness in the world. Can't wait to see the gorgeous wedding pictures! Love you always Emily!

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  13. So so happy for you and your beautiful family. I'm sure Martin helped to bring you two together to watch over and love his family

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  14. This sounds like a story out of the books! I am so glad that you guys are entering a new chapter in your lives and I am sure Martin would be happy for you all. Very excited to see wedding pictures and may God continue to bless you and your family in this journey!

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  15. Aww! Congratulations to you and your family! God is SO good!!!!!! So happy for you guys! ����

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  16. Congratulations, and I pray that Richard can help you all in the healing process. So incredibly happy that you have someone that can help you in your time of need and love you where you need it.

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  17. Congrats! This gives me chills. I'm very happy for you all!!

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  18. Congrats! I know God and Martin both had a part in this for you and for your children. I can't wait to hear more. So happy for you!

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  19. This is wonderful. God sends blessings, and God sent In a man not to replace Martin but to stand along side him in a sense and be that blessing and partne. I've been watching your story and been waiting for your smile to return! What a beautiful update!

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  20. Bountiful blessings to you. My husbands dad died when he was nine. His mother never remarried and it was a tremendous loss for him that he still speaks of today - that he never had a male role model in his day to day life.

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  21. Congratulations! I'm so happy for your family.

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  22. This is so awesome it sounds like a story out of a book! I am so happy for you and your family and I am excited for all of us to see what's to come. Hope those wedding photos are posted soon!

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  23. I wish your changing family every happiness!

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  24. Wow. I can’t believe how HAPPY I am for you. I don’t know if you met me but we met briefly at Blogher 16 not too long after Martin’s passing. You have been such an inspiration the past few months. It is such a blessing that you have someone in your life to help you build the future. It’s kind of beautiful the way you gave Martin a full life and now you are going to continue on and give your children a family. Much love your way.

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  25. I still can not read all your words, you can imagine why, but I believe that GOD and the time are/will be our best friends.

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  26. Congratulations to you and your family. I've followed you the past few years, all the happy times and then the devastating times. I've thought of your family often since Martin's passing and this makes me feel so happy to hear. Congrats again ��

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  27. I came across your post because a friend liked it. I want to let you know that I was 30 when my husband passed away from a 16 month battle with cancer. I'm now 31 and just want to let you know you're not alone out there ❤️

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  28. I am so thrilled to open this up and to see such wonderful news. He is surely the missing piece to your puzzle since Martin went to heaven. I can't wait to see what God has in store for your beautiful families future. ❤️

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  29. I cannot believe that you are 25 and your life has already been so filled with joy and pain. But I am so, so happy to hear that you are married again! Some people are commenting such negative things and I hope you ignore them. I think your situation is so different from some who've lost a loved one. Knowing for 18 months about what was going to happen is very different from other situations. And I can't imagine how glad you will be in years to come that you didn't wait a year to be married! Time is such a precious thing, and I know that you especially know this. Good luck and I am so happy for you!

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  30. I am SO happy for you, Emily! Sending many hugs and much love your way. ❤️

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  31. So happy for you and your sweet family. You deserve the world and am thankful you have someone to share your life with you again. Congrats!❤️

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  32. I am beyond happy for all of you! Congratulations❤

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  33. I'm so incredibly happy for you Emily. I know that you and your kids will always miss Martin, but what a special blessing to have Richard in your lives now!

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  34. This isn't what I expected to read, but it makes my heart happy, and a little sad too. I can't wait to hear more about your story. Best wishes ♡

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  35. Congratulations! You give me hope that someday I might find someone to love again as well:)

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  36. You deserve all the happiness in the world, and what a marvelous miracle to have such a man to help you through. So glad that you found him, and may he help ease some of the load ahead off of your shoulders.

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  37. Just as my heart broke for your sorrow, it's filled with joy for your happiness. Congrats and God bless!!!

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  38. My heart is full at your joy. And that of your children. And Richard. I too believe that Martin had a hand in it as he continues to watch out for your welfare and happiness.

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  39. How much the Lord has blessed you! Praise Him from whom all blessings flow. I look forward to see what the Lord has in store for your precious family. Remember to keep going to Him in all things.

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  40. What a beautiful tender mercy from the Lord! There really is somebody behind the scenes orchestrating things isn't there?! God is good. Your story helps me know that everything will work out in the end, no matter our challenges. We'll praying for you as this new part of your life unfolds!

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  41. Tears of joy for your family. Good happy tears.

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  42. What incredible ways He works. Blessings to you and your sweet family.

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  43. Oh my goodness! Such a surprise but I'm happy to hear you have a companion to help you along your journey. Continued prayers your way. Love, Alyanna

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  44. I have followed your story from afar and this post brought a tear to my eye! I am so thrilled that you and your children have been blessed this way :)

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  45. Congratulations to you and your beautiful family! I am just tearing up reading this, my heart is so happy for you all. You deserve the very best and I know that you are being guided!

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  47. This makes me so so happy. While it's not the same situation and I cannot comprehend the loss of your husband to you and your sweet family, after my son's father and I split up I quickly reconnected with an old friend and we were married within months. I got a lot of rude comments and snide remarks for marrying him so quickly but he has been the greatest blessing I could've asked for and is the most incredible dad to my son. We've now been married almost two years and are expecting our first together in February. Congratulations, I wish you the happiest life together!

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  48. Emily, so happy for you!!!!! What a hard post to write but it is just beautiful! God has perfect timing.

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  49. I've read this post twice already this afternoon and I could read it again and again. Your story is incredible. I cannot wait to read more from you!!!

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  50. This gave me goosebumps the entire time I read it! I was in my kitchen just yesterday thinking about you and hoping you would find someone like Richard. I met both of my step parents when I was 4 and couldn't imagine my life without them. I know your children will always cherish the time they had with Martin but Richard is going to fill their life with so many great memories as well and be able to be a father to them. My heart bursts for you as you entire this new chapter! Stay strong! You are such an inspiration you beautiful woman.

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  51. I am so happy for you all!! You are truly a source of inspiration and you and yours deserve the very best!! May God continue blessing you!! :)

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  52. I am beyond excited for this next chapter in your family's lives. I remember your post when your first husband passed. I prayed for you and your family immediately. God is a restorer and a healer. I am so grateful and blessed to hear of your blessing. I'm wishing you and your family continued success. May God continue to bless and keep you and yours!

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  53. How much the Lord has blessed you! Praise Him from whom all blessings flow. I'm looking forward to seeing what else the Lord has in store for your precious family. Remember to always look to Him in all things.

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  54. You always have the ability to make me cry! I am so happy for you Emily! You deserve nothing but the best. You look beautiful together. I wish you all the hapiness in the world

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  55. I can't express the joy I have for you!! Congratulations!! I don't think people understand that when a spouse dies and it's a healthy happy relationship most widows and widowers marry again very soon. You mourned him while he was still sick. Don't listen to the negative! You know what's right for your beautiful family!!

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  56. πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’•So happy for you and your family!

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  57. Congratulations on your marriage, Emily. You look incredibly at peace.

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  58. I'll be honest, this blew my mind a little but I'm very happy to see you guys happy! Love is so important and heals so many things and props to this guy for giving his whole heart to such a lovely lady and all her little beans. He's sure getting the most out of it!! Wishing you guys a lot of love and happiness!! <3

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  59. Wow!! you caught me by surprise,but SO happy for you!! Praising God that He has brought someone into your family's life. Blessings to you and those sweet kiddos as you transition into your new normal!

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  60. I've always been a follower never a commenter, but this post deserves a comment... my heart is full of happiness for you and your five littles. what a special man he must truly be and how blessed it is that you two were able to reconnect and come together. congratulations a million times over. I don't know you personally but I do know that you are a beautiful human being, inside and out. much love to you and your family...
    here's to new beginnings πŸ»πŸ‘ˆthat's Apple beer by the way πŸ˜‰

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  61. I'm so happy for you and your little baby's I am literally in tears of the immense joy I feel for you! I love to see you happy Emily!

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  62. Oh my heart is so happy!! :) I felt a big sense of peace while reading this. My dad passed away in April and people keep asking me when she's going to date and if she'll get married again... as hard as it is to even think about that, your post brought a lot of comfort to me and my heart as I think about the future of my family and my mom.

    Thank you for sharing your feelings and life with us. You are helping more than you know!! ❤️❤️

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  63. You are so wise and I am so happy for you and your family. Definitely see the hand of God guiding this healing process. Thank you for sharing and ignore the negative - some can never be pleased. Peace and happiness for a lifetime!

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  64. Emily!! I couldn't be more happy for you cousin!! I'm so glad you found each other!! What a blessing he will be to you and your children!! God is so incredible and so involved in the little details of our lives!! This absolutely made my day!! Martin is sure looking out for you and your littles from heaven!! I love this!!

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  65. I am so incredibly happy for you! πŸ’•

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  66. You don't know me, but I have been following your story. I am so incredibly happy for you!!! I'm so glad that you've found someone to come into you and your kids' lives to help heal your broken hearts! πŸ’”πŸ’”πŸ’”

    PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE post wedding pictures!!! πŸ’œπŸ’œπŸ’œ Congratulations!!!!

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  67. I've been following you since always and, don't want to hurt your feelings at all. Please don't get me wrong but, isn't it a little bit hasty? Did MartΓ­n knew about Richard and your closeness? What does Martin's family think about this? I really love you and if you are happy, we all are happy. It is just that this is not really what i expected to read and i do have all these questions...

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  68. This post literally brightened my day! To see you go through one of this worlds most heart breaking senerios to come out happy is truly inspiring! Congratulations to you and your little ones.

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  69. I've never commented on any of your posts before but I've followed along with your story in the past few months. I just want to say how inspiring you are. I couldn't imagine having the strength that you have had over the last few years, the strength for your husband and for your babies, and now the strength to share your love with someone new. You deserve all the happiness in the world, and I hope you receive nothing but positivity as you continue on with the next chapter of your life :)

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  70. everything has a reason, and this may be one of it.. You are blessed. Im so happy for you! God bless your family. :)

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  71. Congrats! You've been such an inspiration to focus on my marriage and my family, to cherish every moment that I have and take nothing for granted. I'm so happy to hear you've found a new happy beginning and wish you lots of love and strength.

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  72. Holding back tears of joy as I read the blessing that God has placed in your family.... so happy for you all

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  74. So surprised and happy! I am super super excited and happy for you. I know this can't have been an easy thing to do. I'm sorry in advance for anyone who feels the need to be rude or hurtful about your decision! Your family is so blessed. Love from CT!

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  75. So happy for you and your family! It sounds like you found a wonderful man!

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  76. I absolutely believe that everything happens for a reason. It's amazing how life can align itself so perfectly. Congratulations on getting married! I always pray for you and it's good to know that you have someone now to support and love you, also your sweet children.

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  77. I feel so happy for you! I was hoping you would find someone to love again and for your kiddos to look up to! I look forward to hearing what you've learned through your experiences and wish you joy for the future!

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  78. Dear Emily, first of all I want to apologize for my bad English.
    I met you and your story last week, and walk today talked about you and your family and showed their photos! Since I'm always met see your photos and your beautiful family and I not known screen prior to sending my love and comfort you!
    I confess that I was quite surprised by this news, but not judged, I read a whole text and while reading I was evaluating everything you went through and how this new phase is important. You deserve all the happiness in the world, and Richard came to make you happy! Martin will always be loved, and certainly is happy for you and the kids!
    Cheers! Kisses!

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  79. So incredibly happy for your beautiful family ♡

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  80. YES! I'm so happy for you and your family! You deserve love and happiness :D

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  81. Congratulations! I just follow you on Instagram but have enjoyed hearing about everything. Thank you for being so humble and honest, I got choked up reading this and I hope you know how many random people love and be support you!

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  82. I am so happy for you!! Your story is incredible πŸ’• Can't wait to read more! Xo

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  83. This totally blew my mind. I don't know you, but I know a woman who just lost her young husband to cancer and she also has young children, so your story is one that I can relate to on a personal level. I was shocked (not in a bad way) to read this part of your story, but I'm also shocked about all the reactions! In this day and age, it's so unusual for something personal to be supported by everyone--no matter what you do, someone has something stupid or judgmental to say. I am so glad all the comments are positive (even if they're moderated to be that way) because there's nothing but positivity in this story and I'm so glad you're sharing it because somewhere there is a woman who will read it and be so specifically uplifted by it. Thank you, congratulations, and what a storybook story!

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    1. You took the words right out of my head. I agree 100%. I feared there would be much nastiness about it. But it is none of our business and I am happy to see so much love and good wishes sent their way.

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  84. This seems quite soon but if it is what you need to be happy then I'm happy for you. I have no idea how I would handle this situation so I cannot judge. Wishing you length in love and joy.

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  85. You and your beautiful family deserve so much happiness and love ♥ It warms my heart and soul that you have found someone who makes you feel happy and is helping you heal.

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  86. Congratulations. We much grab on to happiness regardless of how or when it finds us.

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  87. Congratulations, looking forward to more updates :)

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  88. Congrats and love Emily! It's been a long hard road and you and the kids have come out on the other side and now Richard is there to help you and them, as well as keeping daddies memory alive. He will be their earthly daddy from now on and main will always he their daddy in heaven between them both you and the kids will go far.

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  89. I think it's a wonderful tribute to love, marriage and family that your heart was ready to take this step. It diminishes nothing in the way of your love for Martin. In fact, it is a testament to how much love you shared. I don't know that many of us would be strong or brave enough to do it but I feel such joy at this announcement. Congratulations richard and much love to all.

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  90. I have been following you since your husband got sick. Your story really touched my heart in so many ways, and I have been praying for you and all 5 of your babies. To hear this news brings tears to my eyes. It takes a special man to marry a woman with a healing heart and 5 children, God Bless him and your new beginning on life!! Cannot wait to hear what God has in store for your family ♡♡

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  91. Always remember the past but look back with joy. The future is full of rainbows and miracles. God smiles.

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  92. My step father married my mom and took on us 4 little girls! I feel so incredibly blessed to have him in my life and grateful that he chose to make us his family. He is my dad and I love him more than anything. I hope your children have the same experience with Richard ��❤

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  93. What a beautiful, beautiful story! I am SO ecstatic for you and your sweet children! Thank you, Lord, for this wonderful blessing!

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  94. Hi Emily, I have read your entire blog today, I found you through a coincidence and I'm glad I did, I actually have known you for a while now but I didn't knew who you where until now, strange huh? I have tons of your tutorials pined, they have helped me a lot and I thank you now.

    I want to tell you how sorry I am for Martin and to tell you that even though I don't know you or your children I am truly happy for you and your family, you deserve happiness, you are an incredible 25 year old woman that has been through a lot, you are actually only a year older than me and I can't believe your history. I don't know if you will ever read this comment but if you do know that from now on you and your beautiful family are in my prayers and that I hope from the bottom of my hear that the kind of loss you survived and went through never touches your family again. You are truly and inspiration for me, so thank you, for sharing your life story and for all those beauty tutorials that helped me in my really bad times.

    Lots of love is coming your way, CONGRATULATIONS. I am now a fan of your blog. You are awesome. Wishing you a lot of happiness. <3

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  95. You my dear are an amazing woman. You and your family deserve the peace, happiness and comfort Love brings. My heart is happy for you.

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  96. This is such sweet news! Congrats to you both and we look forward to hearing all the tender moments you feel open to sharing with us! May God bless and keep you all.

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  97. WOW CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! God is so so good!!!! & faithful!!! & the source of hope!!! I'm ecstatic for you!!! & filled with tears of joy for you and your precious family!!! I was praying that God would bless you with a man to lead and take care of you and your little ones!! I'm so so happy for you. :)

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  98. Wow, congratulations!!! I can't wait to read more!!! So incredibly happy for you!!!

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  99. What incredibly wonderful news!!!! So so happy for you all!!! The Lord truly is watching over y'all. I've prayed for you many times and I'm so thankful for a new chapter in your lives ;). Cannot wait to hear more and see wedding pics!

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  100. Wow!
    I can't believe how hard and scary this post must have been! Knowing that there are some who will judge, shun and ridicule. You are brave and strong! What an example you are to your children! You could have hidden away and never come out. But you choose love! I am proud to say I follow you! You keep doing what you are! Raising those babies, in love! Heavenly Fathers love and Martin's love! One day, many sunsets from now, you must think of writing a book! It would show a women how has so many layers!
    I always hated the phrase, the with a lot of pressure and some heat we all become diamonds one day, You, and your children will be the most beautiful one EVER!
    Keeping your little family in my prayers and thoughts! Holding you in love and peace!
    YOU GO GIRL!!!!

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  101. Emily. I live in Australia and have followed your joyful family and terrible sadness for a long time. I was so touched by your post today. I was the 'Richard' to my husband who lost his beloved wife after 10 years of battling cancer. We got together not long after her sad passing and I've tried very hard to keep her memory alive and part of our lives for our boys' sake - our boys not hers or mine, but ours. One commentor mentioned how RIchard doesn't replace your darling husband but has been sent to stand along side him. This is so beautiful and sums up what I've tried (and I'm sure failed!) to do over the years. God bless you both and your children and know that God's wonderful plan has brought you to Richard and me to my husband. Xxx

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  102. Only you know what's best for you! So no judgement here! People will judge but they haven't been in the same situations that you've been in and couldn't ever understand. I was actually more shocked to find out you're only 25? Haha! Congratulations! I am so happy you found someone who makes you and your family happy.

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  103. I am beyond thrilled for you and your children. Wonderful news! Thank you for sharing, and congratulations. xoxo

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  104. How exciting, congratulations Emily, I am glad you found someone!

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  105. Beauty from ashes, what a gift. I am so happy your children will know the love, protection, and guidance of a father. I am also so happy that you will know again what it is to be held, cherished, and loved. Congratulations Fox family ❤️

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  106. Congratulations. I'm so happy for you! I'm excited to hear more to come. What a beautiful gift Heavenly Father has given you and your sweet family. Tears of joy for you.

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  107. I Can't Wait to read the rest of your Story! So So Happy for you and the kids and Richard. I wasn't a bit surprised by this at all... our Heavenly Father is very aware of our needs and if we are listening, we will hear and feel it in our soul the directions we are supposed to go. A friend of mine re married shortly after her husband was murdered - she was also left with 5 kids... Again, the Lord is aware of All of our Needs... ;)

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  108. I'm So So Happy for you Emily! I think the Lord is Very aware of our Needs and if we are Listening, we will hear and know the direction we are supposed to go... we will feel it in our Souls. People will judge but you Know what's in your soul. A friend of mine re married shortly after her husband was murdered and she was left with 5 children as well... The Lord Knows what we all Need in our lives! It's up to us to Listen, Trust and Obey in Faith. Which is sometimes easier said than done... ;) EXCITED to hear more of this New Chapter from your Heart and Soul.

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  109. Awe, that's great news. I'm sure Martin would want you to find ultimate happiness. I'm excited to hear more.

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  110. I cried when Martin died as I felt so syrongly for you and your babies and what you were going through. I read this post with an honest "wow, so soon" feeling but when i finished I was and am sooooo happy for you and the kids. This is amazing and I wish you all the happiness in the world. You guys deserve it. Looki g forward to reading your story further. Xxx

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  111. This is beautiful. You are an amazing woman, truly. From what I have read and what I know about you, you have an unusual knack to hear the whisperings of your heart; the guidance of your higher self, your angels, your inner guides, your God. It takes courage to move on, and to accept that maybe all of this was a part of God's plan after all. May you and yours be peaceful, happy and well.

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  112. Oh my heart. You are such a gracious and beautiful soul. Your babies are perfect and your life, though short lived, has molded and matured you beyond your years. My husband nearly died twice early in our marriage from a farming accident, then relapsed during recovery and flat lined in the ER in front of me. I've often thought how I would have even began to cope with such loss, yet also wondered for a long time how he was miraculously able to be spared. Though I don't ask why anymore now as I know, I realize why everything even the smallest of things, happen in our lives for a reason. Being your same age and having three little ones in 15 months (twins +1) I now know why- why he was able to heal & recover as best as he could. I needed to be these children's mama & honored I am, as I know you are to be yours. I am elated for you at this time & pray for your continued healing, growth and strength both as a mother and as a wife to another very lucky man! I am so very happy for you 7 & look forward to reading your next chapter in your continued story. ��Thank you for sharing

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  113. Everybody needs a partner. I'm happy that your found your soulmate and a friend. I wish you all the best!

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  114. Ahhh my Sweetest Emily ... It took my mother a few years to find someone to mend her heart. During that time she became a complete unhappy stranger 😒 When Joseph entered her life I felt as if he had given me my mom back. You are so blessed to have reconnected with Richard πŸ’žπŸ˜˜πŸ™ƒπŸ¬

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  115. Now about those wedding pictures !!! Can't wait to see your beautiful smiling face !!! πŸ’žπŸ™ƒπŸ¬

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  116. Congratulations, can't believe you are 25 hehe you are such a machine I'm 27 with just one baby & one on the way and I watched your podcast - forget what the app is called, and I thought I wish I had that energy! Congratulations on finding joy in a time of such sadness, wishing you much love & many many happy years!!

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  117. I just can't hold my happiness! You just made my day a good day!

    It's funny because since Martin's gone, I always thought when you would open yourself for love again. I'm so happy you found love and happiness and a new companion :')
    I know that I don't know you, but I'm so happy for you as you would be my friend from old times!
    So happy ! Hear for the good future!

    Kisses for you and your beautiful family, from Portugal*

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  118. Congrats and I can't wait to see your wedding pictures! You deserve to be happy and I truly believe timing is everything and everything happens for a reason.

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  119. Emily, this is so beautiful. :) God works wonderful things, and He has been holding your hand continually! Those who trust in Him will not be disappointed. This makes me think of Psalm 34:4: "I sought the LORD and He answered me, And delivered me from all my fears. They looked to Him and were radiant, And their faces will never be ashamed." I can see in these pictures how happy your sweet children are! So excited for you,
    Emily ��

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  120. Bless that man!! So thankful he is there to take care of you and your children. Praises that God has brought joy into your life through all the suffering.

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  121. Your amazing!! My heart broke for you when I found out about Martin. I will never forget that moment when I found out about his passing, it stopped my world. For a few days you were all I could think about. Thinking what would I do and how hard that must be. Life is busy, sometimes you don't stop to appreciate the ones you love. This changed me. I read your blog and share your stories with my kids and husband often. I'm so happy for you!!

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  122. My heart sings for you and your family. May God fill your life with joy and laughter for many years to come. You're so young but in many ways you've already lived a full life. In one of the previous comments someone suggest that you should write a book about all you've been through and I couldn't agree more!!! You are such an inspiration and I'm confident that you would touch the heart of everyone reading your words whether it's on your blog or in your future book to be.

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  123. I don't know you, but I saw this post shared on Facebook and am so excited for you! I became a widow at 26 and remarried 13 months later. Remarriage is good. Soon is good! I bless Richard with Joshua 1:9... the Lord WILL be with you.

    Your story will keep me smiling all day. I love to hear of remarriages. It doesn't take away the grieving, but it helps so much. Thanks for sharing!

    (Oh, and my first husband's last name was Martin, so of course this sounded so familiar.)

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  124. Congrats!! I am soooo happy for you. God Bless!! Wishing you all a lifetime of happiness!! xoxo

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  125. Thank you for your bravery on sharing your story. Congratulations to you and your sweet family. Thank you for inspiring others and being so honest and raw with us readers! Your blog is my favorite place to land any time of day! πŸ’•πŸ’• Congratulations!

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  126. Congratulations! Thank you for your bravery in sharing your story! I admire you, am excited for you, and look forward to following your journey! You inspire me and your strength and grace are so admirable! Your children are lucky to have you and now your sweet husband too! Congratulations and cheers to you, your children, your marriage, and your courage to share it all with us!

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  127. I was a widow at 24 with 4 little ones. I also remarried 9 months later to a man I had only known for 2 months......15 years later we are still going strong. It wasn't the easiest and there were many tough times, but I woudn't change anything about it. Wishing your whole family the best as you make this transition! Happy you have found someone to share your life, joys, and and struggles with and who will help raise your little ones.

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  128. Congratulations! This is great news! I'm very happy for all of you and can't wait to see the wedding photos!

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  129. Honey, I don't know you. I'm not Mormon (in fact I'm an atheist) but add me to the list of people who are happy for you. I followed the story about Martin and actually cried when he died. You were clearly 100% devoted to him and to your children. You deserve to be happy and loved, and it's clear Richard does that for you. I hope the rest of your life is beautiful and full of joy.

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  130. Oh my goodness. I have never been so happy to see a post as I have been to see this one. My heart has ached for you, Emily, thinking of you being alone and facing a future alone. There is so much we don't know and for anyone who might want to judge this situation, I encourage them to think of how much you don't know. This is an incredibly beautiful next chapter. I am so thrilled for you. You are SO young and you deserve love and happiness and to LIVE HAPPILY. <3

    Thank you for sharing so much with us, and for continuing to share.

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  131. I only found you after another blogger posted when your husband passed, so I'm a relatively new reader. I'm so glad and happy for you that you've found happiness once again. Each and every single day is a blessing and I'm glad you have the honour to share it with someone who obviously loves and cares for you and your children deeply.

    All the best to you and I look forward to reading more.

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  132. I can't even express how happy I am for you. God clearly had a plan and I couldn't be more overjoyed about the happiness you are finally feeling. Congratulations and I look forward to reading more about your new adventure.

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  133. This is beautifully written Emily. I don't think we have met personally but I've held your kids and my mom is your visiting teacher. My husband Rustin has been with you in your home too. Anyway, just wanted you to know that I feel nothing but love and support for you and your family. And welcome to Richard!

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  134. This may seem odd, and I'm not even sure I've commented on your blog before, but you've crossed my mind and been on my heart a few times in the last few weeks, accompanied with thoughts of "I pray she and those children find peace and happiness and doing well." I'm so happy to see God working like this for you!

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  135. What a wonderful thing to happen! Amazing blessings like these happen when we least expect them. I followed your journey during the treatment of Martin's illness and was so intrigued by your story, and your ability to remain strong in faith. I think that having the years you and Richard had were meaningful. Martin gave you your beautiful babies, and Richard will help to raise them. It’s so beautiful to see! What an amazing story, and I cannot wait to hear more! Take care, newlyweds! <3

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  136. I was shocked to see this, but I am sooooooo happy for you and your littles. It truly seems like the Lord is working through these terrible trials to build joy and abundant blessings as a testament to His goodness. Praying for your precious family in the highs and the lows.

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  137. Congratulations! Welcome to the family! I am one of Richards cousins and am so excited for him to be there for you all. He is such a sweetheart so glad you have each other now.

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  138. I have thought about you and prayed for you daily the last 18 months. Reading this post makes me so happy for you and the new journey ahead. Thank you for sharing your story!

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  139. Wow! This is wonderful, surprising news! What a wonderful, merciful, amazing blessing you and your children have received! I am constantly amazed at how Heavenly Father blesses our lives in the most unexpected of ways. Congratulations on your remarriage and like everyone else who has commented, I look forward to the wedding pictures, too ;) ! ~Lynette

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  140. Congratulations dear! So glad to see you all happy! Hope to see more of your post in the next month. They are all inspiring, either about family, feelings or daily routines, fashion, hair. You are amazing person. Glad I can get strength from your posts and pictures. Thank you for that!
    Love to you all<3

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  141. We don't know each other, but I found your story a few months back. I hurt for you with Martin's passing. I thought to myself "My god, how will she do it? Maintain normalcy for her little ones?" Not that is women aren't strong beyond comprehension- because we are....

    But I'm so happy you have someone now to walk the journey with. Soon-ness Is irrelevant. When the heart is ready to be open, it's ready. And I have no doubt that it's because your life was so full of love from Martin and family that it is ready torn be shared again.

    Not a Mormon, not religious, but that too is irrelevant. In my teachings I say... the deeper the hurt we faced, the more love and happiness it can now hold.

    Cheers to your journey, at your pace, with your light.

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  142. Wow. I was stunned to read this! I can't imagine what you have gone through and I look forward to reading more about how you came to this place in your journey. I think we can all learn so much from your story, and surely nope but you can understand what is best for you and your children. Thank you for your courage.

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  143. Oh what amazing news. This did not shock me one bit. I have followed your blog for a while and i knew when sweet martin passed that God would have a man to come beside him for your family very fast. If i ever passed i wouldn't want my kids or husband to be without a good wife or mom for long. And that you were loved so well by martin that you have so much love and confidance to give another GOOD man this soon just speaks how well loved you were in a healthy way and that you view love above yourself. This is so happy.

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  144. All the best to you and yours, dear. This was a pleasant surprise but we're all ecstatic that the best for you all was what occurred. Take care.

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  145. So, so happy for you, Emily! Looking forward to hearing more of your great adventure. :)

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  146. Hello there!
    I've been following you through all of Martin's cancer updates (and of course ideas for long hair ;)). I've cried over your loss and prayed and prayed for you and your sweet children. Now my eyes are misted over out of happiness for you. I'm overjoyed for you!

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  147. This post is such a breath of fresh air and I'm so happy for you!
    I was so saddened to see what you and your family have gone through this past year.
    This really is amazing news, and Mazal Tov on your new marriage!! (it's how you say congrats in the Jewish tradition)
    xo

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  148. I am so happy for you and so humbled by God's love for us, and how he has a plan for each of us. I can see his love and plan so clearly in your life, as I have many times in my own. I am so glad your sweet little ones didn't have to miss having an adoring father in their lives for long. What a sweet blessing. Congrats again!

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  149. I have been checking your blog daily (ok, 10 times daily) for an update. I think your posts are the most interesting part of my life right now. Is that sad? Anyway, the wait is killing me! Please tell us more about Richard and what's going on with you soon!!!

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  150. Like others who are long-time followers of you, at first I was a little surprised with your news... Taken aback even thinking that it's only been three months since your sweet Martin passed. I just got finished listening to your over and hour podcast interview you did with the Marvelous Mom blogger (I think her name was Kristen). I cried along with you during that interview as you talked about the struggles of the last 18 months and your perspective along this journey and how you can never "move on" from what has happened. It has forever changed you, your kids and your life. But you can continue to live and move forward. And I think that's what you've done. Not that you owe your followers any insight into your journey and where you are, but it was wonderful of you to share your more personal details about Martin's initial diagnosis and how you both were blessed with 18 months in spite of only being given 4-6 months initially.

    After listening to you talk for over an hour and hearing you share your heart, your life and your struggles, I can tell you that I have no question at all (not that I really had a right to question anyway) your decision to move forward and get married, regardless of how soon it may seem. I am thrilled that you've found happiness again and you've found someone who makes your heart smile. Storms come in life, but the most wonderful thing is when the sun breaks through the dark clouds. The sun doesn't always wait a certain amount of time for the clouds to fully disperse, sometimes it just breaks through immediately after the worst possible storm, while you can still see the dark clouds surrounding you being illuminated by the rays of sun. I feel that perhaps the sun is peeking through the dark clouds for you, and that is wonderful. It doesn't mean that the storm didn't come and cause damage, it's just the promise that the sun will shine again.

    Thank you for letting us see into your life and I hope and pray blessings on this new union. Enjoy basking in the rays of the sun!

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  151. Like many above - I've always been a reader but never a commenter - but was struck to do so after reading this post more than a few times. I think you might be one of the bravest people I've ever "met." To love another does not diminish the love you had for Martin, and to love another so soon does not mean you are hasty - it simply means you know what you want and what's best for you and your family. And like so many others, I have no idea what I would do in your situation, but I do hope I would handle it with as much grace and love as you do. <3

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  152. Emily,
    You are so brave to share this news with the world. After everything you've been through, your heart is still open - I so admire you.
    My husband's parents both lost their spouses tragically when they each had 2 young children. A mutual friend connected them and they started writing letters to each other. After a few months they decided to meet, and about 3 months after that they were married. They've been married for 38 years now, and they had one child together, my husband Nate. He is very aware that his existence is the result of much heartache, but also much love, and it gives him a great sense of purpose and gratitude.
    I think it's hard for people to understand these situations if they haven't been through a similar experience, or known someone who has. I also think that once you see someone love your children, everything else becomes secondary. Of course your new husband won't replace their father, he isn't meant to. He's meant to love them in his own way, and that's a beautiful thing, no matter when it happens.
    God bless you and your family. xx

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  153. Thank you for sharing this new chapter. Just a month ago I lost my boyfriend of seven years to depression. Your story gives me hope for the future. God bless you, Martin, Richard, and your sweet babes.

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  154. I just read your story last night and continued reading and watching your videos again this morning . I feel like I've known you all my life . What an amazing story . I've laughed and cried and I can see and sense the deep hurt you've endured the last year especially . Grief is a very hard ordeal . We never fully recover . It changes us and we just learn to cope and live with it but we never get to go back to the one we were before . Makes me think of that gospel song the ship of Zion . The storm puts alot of damage to the boat and the sail but the boat keeps on plugging along . Tattered and torn but still afloat . I am so happy to hear of this new marriage and love and journey you've embarked on. Prayers for lots of blue skies and sunshine and clear sailing . God bless you always .. PS please do more videos ..... much love and blessings for you and your family ..

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  155. I have cancer myself and my husband and I are heading to MDAnderson this week in search of hope. I have thought so much of my husband being a single dad of three little children and how I hope he is able to find love soon if I pass. What a blessing this would be not just for you but for our kids as well! I'm so happy you have found someone'

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    1. Prayers for you & your family. May God heal you & give you a lifetime with your family. Hugs!!

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    2. I love your posts and the great example you are to so many of us. A similar thing happened to my sister in law and she was left alone with 3 small children. She found a wonderful new man and they were married and have had 2 children together. He's been such a great dad to her 3 children as if they were his own. We always say that it's hard enough to find 1 good man in a lifetime and she found 2. It sounds like you have too. I'm happy for you and your children and wish you all the happiness in the world. He's the lucky one!

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  156. These pictures are amazing..I'm so happy to read that!!!

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  157. Aw, congrats! Emily, I'm so happy for you. Wishing you and this new family of yours smiles, laughter, and SO MUCH joy. The photos are gorgeous. :)

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  158. I love that the two of you wrote letters for so long and knew one another long enough to understand and bond together. The fact that Richard has stepped up to not only be your husband but to also care for the children of Martin and you, is beautiful. You look like a great family and I am glad the children will have a dad in their lives as they grow up. I can understand how you were hesitant to post about this so soon after Martin's parting, but the fact that you were able to find love to someone you cared for for so long is lovely too. I am happy for you. Congratulations on your marriage!!!!
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  159. I've been a very casual reader of yours through the years. I happened to visit today out of curiosity of what you've been up to. I am so humbled by your openness with sharing such personal experiences. Looking forward to learning more of whatever you are willing to share. You look so happy. Wishing you much love and happiness. <3

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  160. this is so beautiful. i am so incredibly happy for you and your family.

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  161. Is it inapporiate to wish something like this - find a new love - also will happen to me? I want to badly a better and more fulfilling life than the one I have right now.

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  162. Oh, Emily! What a wonderful turn your family is taking! You are right when you say you will never move on from Martin, but you can move forward. I can understand how you felt such trepidation in telling The Internet such personal news.
    I am a first time commenter, but you have been the beauty blogger I've adored the most since I began my beautician journey nearly five years ago. I discovered your work while studying at beauty school & I've been following it since. You have something that a favourite book of mine calls a frame of steel beneath the softness of youthful beauty. Because of this, you will continue to become more beautiful, more awe inspiring, inside and out through your lifetime. Congratulations on your nuptials. Welcome, Richard! I'm so, so very glad you have a partner to lean on as you create those beautiful gold veins you speak of. every post of yours this year has been an emotional read. I'm so glad that the emotions this time are founded in joy. Truly, congratulations.

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  163. I am so happy for you! I'm also very happy with the support from this community! God is good and I'm glad He gave you a partner to not only help you heal, but to share the joys to come! You're amazing!

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  164. Congrats Emily! You and your sweet little ones have been on my mind and I wondered how you all were doing. I'm so happy that you have someone in your life now! You and your little ones deserve it. ����

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  165. Emily! I'm so happy for you that you found someone to help you through all of these tough battles. Your family is amazing!

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  166. Emily! I'm so happy you found someone to help you get through all of these tough battles. Your family is amazing!

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  167. Are you really 25?? So you live in st George that's my hometown!

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  168. Ok I cried through this whole thing, haha. SO happy for you and your beautiful family :)

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